What addictions are not.
Addictions are not the problem. They are the perceived solution.
What many don’t understand about addiction is that it’s not just about drugs and alcohol.
Addiction can involve behaviours, people, and/or relationships—it’s not always chemical.
The crucial point is that the substance or behaviour an addict uses to numb themselves isn’t the problem; it’s their perceived solution.
Yes, it’s a solution, albeit a temporary solution, but that solution that can destroy lives, but it’s still a solution to them.
The real issue lies in the underlying discomfort with oneself.
It’s like being allergic to your own self, feeling out of place in your own skin, lonely in a crowd, always wanting to belong but feeling apart. This deep discomfort is what drives the self-numbing behaviour.
But without going through the process of identifying the real root cause, acknowledging the truth about that event, and then working to re-write the story in your subconscious mind, the problem will likely get worse.
That’s where professional help is needed.
You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.
At BSetFree counselling we will help you to identify the hidden root cause of your addiction and it’s origin. Often as a result of some past trauma we have collected an emotional story which has often happened in our childhood when we didn’t have adult wisdom and we still believe our immature wisdom. It is only with a compassionate enquiry, perhaps with an experienced counsellor or mature friend that we are able to reprogram the meaning of the event and free ourselves from the trap of anything that has made us feel as if we are not good enough, or what I want is not available for me or I just don’t fit in.
If you feel that way, reach out to BSetFree for an initial free consultation.
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